Friday, April 10, 2009

Yasmin, come back. I'm really not a orientalist. I understand why Arabs get mad when westerners are always judging them. I would, too. I know there are people that can be legitimately called Orientalist. It's just that occasionally the term can be overused. Like when my husband was in college, he felt every time he said anything critical of his own community (being a Muslim raised in the ME), he was told not to be "orientalist". The study of the ME, instead of being about honest scholarship was used as a political football. One must not criticize the ME because it would hurt the fight against Israel and American imperialism. And I think As'ad sometimes goes a bit overboard in attacking people whose criticisms are legitimate and not biased and have nothing to do with orientalism or racism like that women reporter. You know, people think anthropologists are like orientalists but my father is an anthropologist and he was the one who taught me that you can't judge another culture unless you have really studied it. Anyway, I think the readers of the blog miss your posts and comments. I know I do and I'm very sorry for driving you away or offending you. Salaam.

22 comments:

  1. No, it's not that at all. I've just become newly single since last week and the process of adjusting from the belief you will spend your whole life with someone to possibly never seeing them again has zapped all my energy. I'm not really interacting with anyone in my life at this point. So it's really unrelated.

    I'll be back when I get over this a little more.

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  2. on the bright side, there's nothing keeping me from what I wanted to do all along which is move to the MIddle East - probably Cairo now since that's where my family is.

    any ideas on Arabic language courses, NGOs, UN orgs located in Cairo are welcome.

    Thanks,

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  3. There are plenty of fish in the sea, as they say. If I were you I'd be in West Hollywood right now. Go out and have some fun.

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  4. Yasmin
    OUCH! That must hurt! All my sympathy. One advice I allow myself to give you. Nothing mends a broken heart better than a breakaway from it all for a while. Cairo would be great. The general human warmth and friendliness will act as a balm and you'll retrieve a taste for living much quicker than staying in the place where everything will be reminding you of the time shared with him.
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  5. "on the bright side, there's nothing keeping me from what I wanted to do all along which is move to the MIddle East"


    I know what you mean Yasmin...a few weeks back I finally made the decision that I am going to go on a volunteering trip to Asia--starting in Nepal, and I hope to make it all the way into Amman or Dubai. Anyway, I have never felt happier because I feel it is my life's purpose to be there :D

    Best of luck to you on finding yourself ;)

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  6. Yasmina...

    Dont be sad over this guy for to long, trust me it will work to make you feel better to come back and bash all the ignorant people.

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  7. Yasmin:

    I don't know anything about your relationship or the circumstances except what you mentioned here, but from that I could tell you were really in love with him. Don't do anything crazy. Let yourself feel the pain(as if you have a choice) and give yourself a chance to mourn, but don't hold on to it. You will always have the memories, both good and bad, and they will be a part of you-but as time goes on they will be part of your past, and won't be kicking you in the teeth like they probably are now.

    One other thing, sometimes a break up doesn't work on the first try, and there are a few late night calls...if you know what I mean(I'm trying to be discrete). Sometimes, a break up doesn't work out at all.

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  8. If I were Yasmin I wouldnt want my now ex reading such specific comments, regardless of how well intnentioned they may be.

    On going to Cairo, well OK, could help. All I know for sure is to remember that, "no matter where you go, there you are."

    From my experience, the passage of time is the only thing that really heals. You just have to let it work its way out of your system.

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  9. Thanks all.

    TGIa, you are so right - I just want to get out of here. He's moving his stuff out this weekend and I have this urge to flee. But I can't go to Cairo til July. :(

    I actually had plans to go to W. Hollywood last night but they fell through.

    fleming, that saying is from a twelve step group. are you in one? just curious.

    joe, my experience has been that they always start calling later on, but at that point i've moved on. it sucks.

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  10. The only way a twelve step program would help fleming is if it was off an eleven step cliff.

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  11. "that saying is from a twelve step group. are you in one? just curious."

    HAHA. Nope. When I was travelling in Europe during college summer, we met a guy from Norway. He was travelling around by himself trying to forget the girl with whom he had just broken up. He quoted that phrase to us, and for some resaon Ive always remembered it.

    Joe, once again your humor shows no signs of life. Im sad for you.

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  12. Yasmin, I'm truly sorry. I do know that however much this hurts now, this too shall pass. I think your new life will be much better than the old one!

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  13. Yasmin, I have no advice, just follow your heart and instincts.

    As for fleming, I always find you being the brunt of a joke hilarious...LOL

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  14. Im glad to be able to bring some joy into your largely joy-less life V. People who are non-stop in a seething rage (see also tgia, saif, marcatu, joe, abe, etc) dont have much to offer the world at large. So good for you, lighten up, being doom and gloom all the time just aint healthy!

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  15. My instinct is to get the hell out of LA asap. Keep it as a home base, though.

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  16. Thanks for your kind words, Molly.

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  17. Yasmin: blogging is the remedy for what ails you. ;)

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  18. I am sorry to hear of your troubles, yasmin.

    http://www.usaid.gov/careers/gcvacancies.html

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  19. People who are non-stop in a seething rage (see also tgia, saif, marcatu, joe, abe, etc) dont have much to offer the world at large
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    I agree fleming! Imagine the world without artists! Wouldn't it be wonderful!
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  20. fleming
    I have doubts that any of us, you and me, are contributing much to the world, to be honest. Few human beings are doing that and we aren't among them. We're both in the business of surviving the best we can. You with brokerage/finance stuff and I with art and teaching...Don't get too excited about your positive impact on our poor old world because quite frankly I'm not convinced. As far as I'm concerned, it's enough to think that being the only artist in modern Australian art who won a certain prize 3 times in the short span of 6 years. Not a huge achievement in MY book but it is for many people around.
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  21. As far as I'm concerned, it's enough to think that being the only artist in modern Australian art who won a certain prize 3 times in the short span of 6 years.
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    3 times in the short span of 6 years, IS NOT ALL THAT BAD.
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